Dear Annie: Shouldnât family invite family members to their wedding?

Dear Annie: My son is getting married in a year. He has sent out save the dates to family and friends. He sent one to his cousin and his cousin’s fiancee.

Two months later, the same cousin and fiancee sent out wedding invites for their own wedding (taking place two months before my son’s) and did not include my son’s fiancee. I spoke with my nephew to see what happened. He said it was a mistake but he would need to wait to see if others reply no before inviting my soon-to-be daughter-in-law. It is going to be a fairly large wedding, and I feel like my nephew should remedy the situation now and not later. At this point, if my son’s fiancee is not invited, then the rest of our immediate family, including myself, do not want to attend my nephew’s wedding. — Irritated Aunt

Dear Irritated Aunt: Your nephew’s logic doesn’t make much sense. If it was a mistake that your son’s fiancee never got her invite, then it shouldn’t really matter how the other guests RSVP. I would speak to your son directly about the matter, and then have him reach out to his cousin and explain why it’s important for his fiancee to receive an invite sooner rather than later.

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